Marriage! I do

In micronomics, politics, science there is a concept called bandawagon effect. In totality, it essentially means that, "people often do (or believe) things because many other people do (or believe) the same. The effect is often pejoratively referred to as herding instinct, particularly as applied to adolescents. Without examining the merits of the particular thing, people tend to 'follow the crowd'. The bandwagon effect is the reason for the bandwagon fallacy's success."

Having said this, can we question ourselves if the same theory can be extended to explain certain man-employed institutions, one among them being marriage. In recent times (not that i have seen many other times), this is more than evident in my immediate surroundings. Yesterday X got married. Y is getting engaged soon, so will Z. Then the A, B , C follow.

There are certain beliefs that I hold dear, fast and hard. There is a certain quantum of learning that one must do alone, without the supportive comfort of a crutch. We have begun living, or rather surviving, a life where we can dare to make mistakes and win our own wars, lose a few battles, or as in my case, losing many battles miserably - jarring and ignoble defeats...


I wonder what is that prompts us to say "Ok, Let me give it a try, sorry, not 'it', but 'him/her'". I know, actually knew, a guy who has seen 55 gals. I have written about this specimen in one of my other blogs. How many is the right number? What are you trying to guage here? Is it your level of patience? Or do you keep looking until the futility of the pursuit numbs your senses so as to daze you into accepting anyone out of sheer defeat. Or, Do you succumb to the unsettling fact that your never-reducing age will soon reflect on your face too?


Well, well, well... how many is the right number.. 'One, two, three... remember there is no limit to counting'... Hail mary, mother of God, Is it even possible! Meeting a couple or more of guys/gals may not necessarily help you decide on the criteria that you expect in your guy/gal, but certainly will help you decide what you "DONT WANT". Isn't this more important? This may received as negative perception. Why look at the thorns when there is the rose!!! Motherhood statements galore...


When I questioned my senior colleague, who recently said, "I do", why he married the one he did? His answer was pretty simple. "We struck a chord"... Were you playing guitar?? I asked a similar question to another friend, her answer was slightly on the conservative side. We spoke for 8 hours and then I knew it had to be him and ME... This reminds me of honey came in and she caught me red-handed. blah blah blah... It wasn't me. I like this song.

Lastly, saying "I do" is not difficult. As long as one does not wake up one fine morning and bawl,
"What the hell did I do"
"Why did I do"
"How did I do"

At the end of the spate of questions, you may not have the answer to the most simplest of all, "When did I do"... you would love to forget the day you said, 'I do'.