Fatalism or pure co-incidence

Fatalism - A belief that means men are as powerless as we can be when it comes to shaping ones life. Having a strong platform in the belief that all events are pre-planned and are executed on us, fatalism is strong contender of the following: Nothing is in our hands, there is no free will, events are affected by a a plethora of external stakeholders that we dint even know existed.

Well, I am not sure if I believe in this philosophy. Nevertheless, I take the liberty to narrate a particular incident that occured 15 years ago.

My mother has a cousin. Well, it does not really matter whether first or second, lets just assume that she is her cousin. As a part of a the marriage package, an eligible bachelor and his family had come to see her. This was roughly 15 years back, as I earlier stated. Anyway he refused to marry her, so did his family. They went ahead, saw a few more girls, and got him married to the one they thought was the most desirable. The man and wife began their life, as any couple would, with the wife bearing him 3 children.

Good, And life would have gone on for all of them, if not for a tragedy that struck him. His wife died, leaving behind her 3 children and a distraught husband who was little at ease to take care of his children. As all men are socially entitled to take a second wife, as against a woman taking a second husband, his family decided to get him a new wife. And he agreed. They found a gal who was never married and tied them together for the rest of their lives. The tragedy has been forgotten now, the new wife has all replaced the old one and life has moved on...

Wait, I did not tell you a twist here. The second wife that he took was the lady he had refused to take to be his wife, 15 years ago!! She was still unmarried for the want of a suitable groom for her and was nearly 45 years old when she was married to the widower. Phew, strange, if he was destined to marry her only... then why had fate to get him married to someone else before killing her!!